YOU ARE VALID
OUR MESSAGE
Tri-County Gender Benders is a trans-centered support group focused on providing a community for those on the trans spectrum in the tri-county upstate area of South Carolina.Transgender people face discrimination, higher rates of violence, and higher rates of suicide than other groups in the United States.Our group consists of members whom are Transgender & Transgender Allies. We help one another cope with a society that is learning.We foster our community through regular monthly meetings each month.
WHO WE ARE
We are a support group founded on the need to help those in the transgender community through the struggles that may arise from transition.Our group consists of members of the transgender spectrum. With allies, brothers and sisters, we help one another find ways to deal with a society that is learning to grow.With growing support from our own government there is still backlash that attempts to undermine the equality that we strive for. It is in these moments that we pull together and show our own love, educate ourselves and others, and press forward in this civil rights movement.
WHY WE ARE HERE TO HELP
With suicide rates significantly higher than any group in the United States, transgender people potentially face discrimination in society, children facing it in schools and higher rates of violence towards transgender people and especially our transgender sisters of color.We welcome all who need that ear to listen, that shoulder to lean on, that hug to embrace who you are. We see you, you are valid, you are loved, we are here for you if you need us.
HOW OFTEN DOES THE SUPPORT MEETINGS HAPPEN?
We have a monthly online meeting from our private discord, and from time to time an in person meet-up in the upstate. For more information on when they take place please contact us at our Facebook page or by email on our contact page. Our meetings are done in confidentiality with the member as to protect their privacy and the privacy of others. We are space for helping one another live their best life on their journey.
DO YOU HAVE GROUPS ONLINE FOR CONTINUED SUPPORT AND RESOURCES?
We have a private Discord server for open communication between all means of support across the state of South Carolina and local events.
DO YOU HELP THOSE WHO ARE NOT YET TRANSITIONED?
We do, message us via our Facebook page or on our Contact Us page. If you're not out or transitioned, because of home life, work or even the fear of family disconnect. We are here to listen and support you. We will even refer you to local resources/therapists in your area if you have not been able to locate one. If we feel you need more direct support we will get you info on meeting with us at our support groups but will always respond to those in need.
DO YOU HAVE A HOTLINE?
We don't but our friends at Trans Lifeline do and are available to listen to you 24/7. You will speak to a trans-person on the other end who will understand your issues and will help you through them. You can contact them at 877-565-8860. It gets better.
DO YOU HELP WITH "PASSING" OR "STEALTH"?
"Passing" is an unfortunate stigma a lot of transgender people live with. We're not here to help with blending in or going shopping, we would rather you be you. But, we also acknowledge the safety this can bring in certain environments here in the south. We can assist you in right direction for the resources that may help you on your journey, some of us can assist you in voice feminization resources but remember we will always accept you for you.
DO YOU HAVE GROUPS ONLINE FOR CONTINUED SUPPORT AND RESOURCES?
We have a private Discord server for open communication between all means of support across the state of South Carolina and local events.
WHO ARE ALL THE PEOPLE IN THESE PHOTOS?
These are stock photos of trans people across the spectrum. The Gender Spectrum Collection is a stock photo library featuring images of trans and non-binary models that go beyond the clichés. This collection aims to help media better represent members of these communities as people not necessarily defined by their gender identities—people with careers, relationships, talents, passions, and home lives.
All of the photos in the Gender Spectrum Collection were taken by Zackary Drucker.
The painted transgender flag background was created by talented artist Garyck Arntzen
IT DOES GET BETTER
It gets better for all of you. We do not discriminate against any race, gender, age, or religion. We welcome all those who want to move forward with their life, or need help getting to that point. We want to be there for you, you're not alone in this even if it feels like it can be. It bares repeating, it does get better.
For hotlines check out our Resources page.
SUPPORT MEETING SERVICES
We hold a monthly support group meeting to share our stories with each other. Due to COVID we currently hold these meetings remote online. Meet other fellow transgender people during our support meetings regardless of age, race, or religion. We discuss our triumphs and our failures or ask questions about your transition or next steps in transition. We have resources that may provide help for you in this local tri-county area.We also provide continued support and resources on our private Discord server and Facebook group. You must attend a meeting to be invited to either one.We all help one another to see that it always gets better on this journey.You are worth being your true authentic self.You are seen, heard and loved.Contact us for more info on joining one of our monthly meetings.
For more information or to join our private discord support server, feel free to message us below:
Organization | Local Support | Website |
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Gender Benders | Gender Benders is a grassroots organization for transgender and gender diverse folks in Greenville, SC. They have great resources for getting your name changed in the state of South Carolina. | genderbenders.org |
Pride Link | Pride Link is working toward its mission by providing a mobile community center across all ten counties of Upstate, SC (Abbeville, Anderson, Cherokee, Greenville, Greenwood, Laurens, Oconee, Pickens, Spartanburg, Union). That mission is to improve the quality of life for all LGBTQ+ people in Upstate, South Carolina. | pridelink.org |
Organization | Legal Services | Website |
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Campaign for Southern Equality | For legal assistance check our friends over at Campaign for Southern Equality for many legal resources. They also have great resources for medical resources of care in the south east US that can be found by going here. | southernequality.org |
Organization | HIV Support | Website |
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Aid Upstate | Preventing and treating HIV through direct services, advocacy, education and awareness. AID Upstate is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization that provides supportive services to people affected by HIV/AIDS in Anderson, Greenville, Oconee and Pickens Counties of South Carolina. | aidupstate.org |
Organization | Salons | Website |
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Strands For Trans | Strands For Trans is bringing gays, straights, women, men, anyone, together to create more trans-friendly barbershops and hair salons. | strandsfortrans.com |
Organization | Community Events | Website |
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Upstate Pride | Upstate Pride SC is dedicated to spreading the word about events in our community that support and uplift the LGBTQ community in our area. Check their website to see what’s going on and find events you can attend here in the Upstate | upstatepridesc.org |
HOTLINES | Information | Tel. | Website |
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TRANS LIFELINE | Trans Lifeline is a national trans-led organization dedicated to improving the quality of trans lives by responding to the critical needs of our community with direct service, material support, advocacy, and education. | US: 877-565-8860 Canada: 877-330-6366 | translifeline.org |
TREVOR PROJECT | If you’re thinking about suicide, you deserve immediate help. They also offer 24/7 chat and text messaging support. TrevorText provides live help for LGBTQ youth with a trained specialist, over text messages. | US: 866-488-7386 or Text START to 678678 | thetrevorproject.org |
CRISIS TEXT LINE | Don't want to talk? Texting/Chat with Crisis Text Line is free, 24/7 support for those in crisis. From anywhere in the US to text with a trained Crisis Counselor. | Text HELLO to 741741 | crisistextline.org |
Organization | Welcoming Churches/Fellowships | Website |
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Greenville Unitarian | Sunday Service at 11:00am at 1135 State Park Rd Greenville, SC 29609. For more information call: (864) 271-4883 Email: office@greenvilleuu.org. | http://greenvilleuu.com |
Spartanburg Unitarian | Sunday service is at 11:00am at 210 Henry Place Spartanburg, SC 29306. For more information call: 864-585-9230 Email: office@uucs.org | http://www.uucs.org |
First Baptist Greenville | Sunday service is at 10:30am at 847 Cleveland Street, Greenville, SC 29601. For more information call: (864) 233-2527 Email: contact@firstbaptistgreenville.com. | https://firstbaptistgreenville.com |
Organization | Family Support | Website |
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PFLAG (Greenville, SC) | You can find more info on this group of family and friends at their Facebook page or by contacting them at pflag-greenville@upstatepflagsc.org or tel: (864) 232-2988 | Facebook page |
PFLAG (Spartanburg, SC) | You can find more info on this group of family and friends at their Facebook page or by contacting them at pflag-spartanburg@upstatepflagsc.org or tel: (864) 574-1253 | Facebook page |